The Heart of a Title Holder

Sometimes, being a title holder is tough. We get up and go about our daily life, we shower and cook and eat; we commute to and from work, clean our homes, care for our family and pets, we deal with drama and all the other normal life activities. All this we do while simultaneously keeping an eye on the internet and an ear to the ground, searching for hints of what our community needs most from us at that time.

Being partners with another title holder concurrently is a big commitment and it's hard. Not just hard work, it's hard on you both because your priorities are challenged. It's easy to tell a panel of judges that your title will take precedence over your relationship - and even your dynamic - but do you really know what you're promising? Do you have it in you to follow through and give the community your all for a year?

I thought I did in March 2012; and I wasn't totally wrong, I understood perfectly what I was saying but I didn't really understand the impact it would have. On myself, on Sir or on both of us; I failed to grasp the way our dynamic would have to shift to allow such a thing. Sir and I won and we're doing all we do because we have a good support structure : based upon our relationship and dynamic, we stand together in all we do for the title; but sometimes we both need somebody besides each other. We are blessed to have our wonderful boy with us, who provides emotional and physical support and offers his ear or shoulder when we need it. Even when he cannot be there for us, or cannot do it all, we have our community. No community is perfect, as no human is perfect and what is a community but a gathering of people similar in lifestyle, beliefs or interests? We do not deceive ourselves that Washington, King County or even just Seattle escapes these truths. But - for all the human flaws in the world - humans are singularly and as a group, capable of greatness, amazing acts of generosity, selflessness and kindness. It has been such an honor to witness the truth of these facts, to personally receive such gifts from folks I consider my family within this community, over this last year.

In return for all the community gives us, isn't it then the duty of the title holders - chosen to represent it - to serve with their whole heart? To serve does not make a person weak, subservient or otherwise lowly; neither does it make a person wise beyond their years, infallible or inhumanly strong. We are human and a part of your family, we serve you as your collective representative and voice. A single voice on the behalf of hundreds and thousands. In our service we learn and grow and strive to give the individuals we meet along the way the chance to achieve the same.

All of this is done for the love of the community that gives many of us a home and family when we can find it in no other place. And it is this love that pushes us to excel, to be all that we can be for as many as possible. This is the truth of holding a title. This is our legacy to you.

Do you share it? Do you yearn for it?

Busy busy bees

I haven't been blogging much not because I don't have things to say but because I'm so busy that I've not had the time to sit down and write them - I've been saying them all out loud. But sometimes the written word has more staying power and I want to talk more about all the work we've been doing.

It's January, which means - among other things - Sir & I are in our final quarter as Washington State Mr & Ms Leather 2012.
To be honest, we spent the last few weeks being quiet and dealing with all of our work and planning and just sitting and wondering "where the hell did the year go?"

We've been working for the last few weeks to confirm dates and themes and beneficiaries for our fundraisers and I'm happy to say we have 3 out of 4 confirmed. We also are working to get the final details confirmed for a contest we'll be hosting with the CSPC : Northwest Iron Dom, Titanium Sub & Steel Toed Bootblack on March 15th at the CSPC. More details will be following but if you're interested in competing or just more info, please contact me or Sir. (GMail at bottom of this post)

The first quarter of the year is busy in Washington, especially the Seattle area, for titles.
Last weekend was the 49th Annual Mr/Miss Gay Seattle pageant hosted at Neighbors Nightclub.
Next weekend is the Knights of Mantra Beggars Feast at the Royal Hall.
Saturday 2/16 will be the Seattle Coronation 2013 - The President’s Ball: A Cruise Around the World, Lake Style to be hosted at the Seattle Renaissance Hotel.

On top of that, Sunday 2/10 will by my first fundraiser and will benefit the King County Youth Development Project & Lifelong Aids Alliance Chicken Soup Brigade (http://kcydf.org & http://www.llaa.org); we are going to have a mid-winter Luau at Changes in Wallingford (2103 North 45th Street  Seattle, WA 98103). There is a food drive for the Chicken Soup Brigade - please feel free to bring by donations any time from today up through the 10th of February. We will continue to collect until the end of the night! If you can make it out, we'd love to see you and I'll be posting a Facebook event soon - hopefully this weekend.
My second fundraiser will be in Spokane and will benefit the Spokane AIDs Network (http://www.san-nw.org/about/) and I'll have more information on that coming shortly. This event will be the first of three "Taste of Kink" themed fundraisers we do.

Sir also has two fundraisers in the works, the first will benefit Coccoon House (http://www.cocoonhouse.org/index) to be held on March 2nd at Bar Myx (1212 California St Everett, WA 98201). We are working to have a line up of local Tops & Doms who are interested in hosting an educational/taste tables available for folks.
The second fundraiser will be March 9 in Tacoma and we are working to confirm the beneficiary on this one by Friday and then I'll have more information. This will be the final of the Taste of Kink events.

On top of all of this, our monthly OutWest Leather Night has been an amazing social event each month and we are starting to see a large mix of folks from all walks of the kinky life joining us. If you haven't, we'd love to see you out next time: our next Leather Night will be hosted at OutWest Bar (5401 California Avenue SW Seattle, WA) on February 7 from 7-9.

Until the next time, stay warm, safe and kinky!

Colby Adam : WashingtonStateMrLeather2012
Nyx : WashingtonStateMsLeather2012